If success has eluded us, when we know we could be doing so much more, the time to reevaluate life is here. We must be honest with ourselves, the hard choices made, a plan with defined goals, yet with the flexibility needed in the real world should be thought out. Change begins when we recognize that must master ourselves, holding in check our desires, passion, and excesses.
Every action will have a reaction, we may not see it for years, but there will be one. That is why the choices we make every day are so important, even those we deem small. A prime example is food, many of us do not give a second thought to what we put into our body. It matters, we will see the obvious, which is weight gain, the part we do not see until we are in trouble is our health. Nothing will taste as good as healthy feels.
We close out another year and usher in a new decade. All of us tend to make resolutions on New Year’s day and yet how many of us follow through? We often give up within a month, why? Change is hard, leaving our comfort zone is not easy, does it mean we do not want to improve our lives? We all have dreams and aspirations, but are we willing to put in the work that it will take to reach them? If we want something bad enough, we will make the time, find the funds, be consistent and throw away the excuses.
Habits. Good, bad or slightly annoying, it is our habits that will ultimately determine where we end up: success or failure.
I was recently sent this article about a man who had studied a group of rich people and outlined the common habits he found they had. While that article, in particular, was only about a group of people with a high monetary net worth, I’ll go beyond that, and say that good habits can help you succeed in life, not just determine who becomes wealthy. Money and things are temporary. Success is also about what we do with our time while we are here on earth.
I really like this definition of a habit: a routine or behavior that is repeated regularly and tends to occur subconsciously. That pretty much encompasses all that needs to be said about habits.
It has also been said that it takes twenty-one days to form a habit. I have been working on creating better habits for myself.
I will give you two examples from my life. First, I committed to writing this blog with a new post every Wednesday. I did it for a full year. Even when I felt nobody was reading or following my posts, or I felt I could better use my time doing something else, I still sat down and wrote. I enjoy writing and it keeps me sharp while I finish up my book. The point is that I made it a habit to sit down in front of the computer to write every single day, so that I could make sure I produce enough content.
My birthday was June 1st and I made a commitment to myself that I was really going to push myself in the fitness department. I wanted to increase my strength, so I started an intense training program with kettlebells. I gathered all of the information that I could, buying books on kettlebells and watching training videos by the pros. I then planned a kettlebell program four times a week to add to my regular training. I have not missed a day and progress is moving forward at a pace better than I expected. I have made heavy kettlebell training a habit and I can feel the results.
Success in anything new does not come from luck, and it is not free.
The time I took to examine my life and create new habits has paid off. It was not easy to admit to myself that I had some really worthless habits. It was hard to ditch some life long patterns I had, but I have and I will continue to work on replacing them with good ones. I can change my life. If you want to, you can change yours too.
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
1 Corinthians 10:13
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
Sometimes I like to just hang back, watch people to see what they do and how they act. If you pay attention you can easily determine why some succeed and others fail at certain endeavors.
It has become easy for most of us to skip over the small details in life. We live in a quick on the go society. In reality every detail, no matter how small, matters. I have the luxury of hindsight because I am able to look back on my life and determine why I was successful at certain times. I can also be sure of why I failed at other incidents. It comes down to the details.
Why are Vincent Van Gogh’s works of art so amazing and thought provoking? After all anyone can paint a starry night. In reality, very few can capture the mood and feel with a brush.
Last week I watched a championship fight between two fighters at the top of their game. One of them was hit by a huge hook and right away he came back with a wicked cross. The hook seemingly had little effect on the one hit. Two still pictures reveal the reason behind it.
The hook was “winged,” which means the hips were not used and it was only a palm strike. He didn’t hit with his knuckles, but his opponent did use his hips and turn over his punch. Those tiny differences made the difference between being able to walk through a punch and being thrown against the ropes.
How many times do we fail to take each step we need to accomplish our goals? Are we using our hips to throw our hooks (hypothetically), or are we just slapping with our hands? I have been and am guilty as the next person when it comes to cutting corners. I used to never worry about the small things, I always figured I could go back and fix them. This faulty way of thinking has cost me a lot over the years. I think about all the time and heartache I could have saved myself and I realize how ignorant I had been.
We walk through life without realizing that God has provided us with everything we need to live a prosperous life of fulfillment. It is hard because we cannot see the big picture or the final outcome. This is where faith comes into the picture and helps us get through the rough periods. The good news is, that even though we can’t see the future, our job is not to blindly walk in faith, he has given us clear guidelines of how we should live in the Bible.
Our lives are made up of thousands of tiny actions that take place every hour of the day and night. A chef cannot put a culinary masterpiece on the table without careful attention to each of the ingredients.
I listen when someone is explaining something unfamiliar to me and I absorb the information. If I don’t understand something, I will ask questions.
I make every effort to do whatever task I set out to do right in the first place. I know I will fail at times, but I learn and I never continue to make the same mistakes again.
How could paying attention to details make your life easier? The next question is why are you not sweating the details? When we cease to learn, life is over.
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.
The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied.
“Temporary success,” or perhaps, “the illusion of achievement” might be a good way to describe my life in the past. I would make it to my goals because I did whatever it took to get there, the problem was I could not maintain it.
It turns out this is a common problem among a lot of the population. We all work hard to get a promotion, but as time passes our performance begins to slip.
In fitness, I have seen it many times. People decide to “get in shape” for a marathon or a tough mudder or even a fight. They go all out and they do well for the months leading up to the event. After they have completed it they go right back to where they started. Sometimes its the goal to lose five pounds before a vacation or a wedding. They reach their goal and yo-yo right back to where they started. It is amazing because they feel great temporarily, yet back they go after all the hard work.
I was very money oriented or often times I just wanted to reach a place that others told me was impossible. I would set out to prove everyone wrong and that provided me with the fuel to get it done. I can see now that this was one of the reasons I had so many highs and lows in life. I had no consistency in my self-control and I always felt I should reward myself for attaining whatever my current goal happened to be.
I was able to focus for a set period of time, but when I felt I was where I should be, I slacked off. My solution? A long term plan! I also knew that if I was going to succeed at anything I was going to have be more consistent in my efforts and outputs. I had to stop letting myself coast on past deeds. I had to decide to commit myself to excellence in everything I do. No matter what the task or small the detail. Details are very important, getting through anything without doing it right will cost me in the long run.
I had to make sure all my short term goals were in alignment with my long term goals. I had to give up looking at what was over the horizon and instead make the best of what I have right now.
I had to get organized. If I wanted to get somewhere and maintain it, I had to be able to keep a uniform performance and that only comes with organization.
Finally, I had to realize it is not all about me. What I do to get to my end goal, how I affect those around me on a day-to-day basis as I work toward my goal matters.
I decided that this time I would approach my goals through consistent hard work and the guiding principles of doing what is right. The Bible spells it out for me. The Gospels have laid out the framework on how to live a fruitful life full of sacrifice, love and joy.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.