If success has eluded us, when we know we could be doing so much more, the time to reevaluate life is here. We must be honest with ourselves, the hard choices made, a plan with defined goals, yet with the flexibility needed in the real world should be thought out. Change begins when we recognize that must master ourselves, holding in check our desires, passion, and excesses.
Every action will have a reaction, we may not see it for years, but there will be one. That is why the choices we make every day are so important, even those we deem small. A prime example is food, many of us do not give a second thought to what we put into our body. It matters, we will see the obvious, which is weight gain, the part we do not see until we are in trouble is our health. Nothing will taste as good as healthy feels.
We close out another year and usher in a new decade. All of us tend to make resolutions on New Year’s day and yet how many of us follow through? We often give up within a month, why? Change is hard, leaving our comfort zone is not easy, does it mean we do not want to improve our lives? We all have dreams and aspirations, but are we willing to put in the work that it will take to reach them? If we want something bad enough, we will make the time, find the funds, be consistent and throw away the excuses.
We are only free when we conquer our ignorance and weakness while taking personal responsibility for our actions. It is when we put away selfish thoughts, stopping giving into animal indulgences that we realize just what our purpose is on this planet.
I must have read and heard the following advice thousands of times throughout my life:
Always do your best. Make do with what you have. Life is a journey, not a destination. You get the idea. Instead, I always viewed everything I did in life as a means to an end.
Let me explain what I mean. I have always been goal-oriented. I would have a big long-term goal in mind and I would work towards it. The problem is that whatever I was currently engaged in did not matter to me. It was just a step toward reaching my bigger goal. I wasn’t worried about the quality of my work or life, as long as I was closer to the next big thing.
Here is an example of what I’m talking about.
In my former criminal life, bookmaking (sports bets) was my bread and butter. It was the fuel for everything else. It paid for my travel to chase after the big scores. It paid for every side project I launched. I did not care about it other than it kept putting enough cash into my pocket to do what I wanted. I also ran stores and other businesses but I would neglect them, to focus on a new venture or bigger money-making scheme.
The problem I encountered in my life, again and again, was this: I would make enough money doing something to get what I wanted in the short term, and then I would be off again on some crazy adventure.
I wasted years of my life not giving one endeavor my full, undivided attention.
I caution you to learn from my mistakes. No matter where you are at in life, no matter what you are doing – make the most of it! Give it all your attention, work hard, master it, make it work and you will have no regrets. Don’t spend your life looking for the next big thing, make the most of every day and be the best version of yourself today.
God has given each of us a specific set of skills that sets us apart from everyone else. Invest your time in growing those skills and working with what you already have right now. Stop viewing your time and your job as a means to an end. Each day is a gift and an opportunity to improve.