We all have the same amount of hours in a day, Therefore each of us holds the key to our own life. The outcome good or bad falls on our shoulders. We can pursue small things that catch our eye, basically distractions or we can choose to work towards a major goal. All of us must keep in mind, that once an hour has passed it is gone forever, there is nobody to blame, but ourselves. So we must choose wisely.
Our lives are built on our actions, attitude, and the choices we make every day, even those people we let in our inner circle. If we are unhappy with where we are in any aspect of life, we are responsible for change, too often we look for outside influence. The soundtrack of our lives is the thoughts we vocalize or play in our mind on a daily basis.
When we are constantly racing towards a destination, what happens to the moments we are living right now? Fast does not always mean better, many times we are in such a hurry we fail to do the necessary work it takes to build a strong base. In life details matter.
A habit is not born in a day, change will not come with a couple of days work. It is only through diligent work, overcoming any setbacks while continuing to learn on a consistent basis that we realize progress. In life consistency is king.
Life comes down to the choices we make. We learn, sometimes the hard way that what we want is not always what we get. If we take personal responsibility for our actions, while taking our time to think them out, life will work out.
We are all guilty of telling our friends and family about the things we hope to do one day, and then doing nothing towards achieving those goals.
Inaction costs us our desires. Think about the inventions, art, music, literature and financial gains that are lost because we never take the necessary steps.
Could it be that we are all lazy? Or do we just derive enough pleasure from picturing our perfect scenario without having to do any of the work it will take to get there?
The problem with this is that one day we will begin to have feelings of regret and disappointment.
I see it all the time in the gym. People come in to get into shape. They know they need to do something and yet they just cannot persevere or push through mental/physical obstacles. Sometimes they blame it on “not having time,” which simply means it is not a priority. We all have time for the things that matter to us.
Then, a year passes, and inevitably they are worse off.
I have seen it in Jiu Jitsu so many times. People come in and want to learn, but they just are not willing to put the time into learning. I can tell you this observation I have made. Those that have become black belts in Jiu Jitsu that I have trained with are not the loud, weight-lifting braggart types. They are those that showed up day after day and put in the work and the time to learn.
I also observed it in my writing career. People often talked about their projects, took classes, seminars and did everything they could, except actually putting pen to paper day after day.
The problem comes from the inside. Each of us must ask ourselves if we are content maintaining our current life without making any changes. If the answer is no, then we must make changes.
Dreams, goals and destinations will never happen without first taking solid steps that will build the momentum to reach them. Each of us holds the power to change, no matter what our situation is at this moment. We cannot blame anyone else for our failure to accomplish our goals. The decision is up to us, we alone must take action.
I know that I am not the only person to have big internal battles, so today I will share a little about mine.
When my day begins roughly around 2:30 am five days a week, the first of my daily battles kicks off. I may wake up just before my alarm, in which case I wonder to myself if I should close my eyes or just get up. Often I am shocked into alertness by my alarm and I dream about what it would like to just turn it off and roll back over. I always get up, because a few minutes extra sleep will make no difference. It may sound crazy, but I enjoy getting an early start on my day.
After I have read the news and enjoyed a cup of coffee, I take my dogs out for a long hike at about 3am. During my walk I judge how banged up I am from the day before. My leg, foot, shoulder, back or a combination of them all, may hurt.
It may play out in my mind something like this: I am not going to do everything today. Maybe I’ll just do half a workout or I’ll just move around. Then I think about my end goals and I know I will do what I need to do.
The bottom line is we all struggle with many things every day. We know what we should do and yet we often settle for what is easy to do.
This is where personal responsibility comes into play. We as adults should know the cost of any decision as well as understand the reward. We are the ones who will ultimately need to take action to reach our goals.
It is hard, not fun or popular and at times we may feel like we are missing out. If we are honest with ourselves, we all know deep down what choices we should make for ourselves.
Making better choices is a learned behavior and it takes work. The good news is if we practice it, it gets easier. It may be really hard to get up before the time you usually do to get in a workout, but after a few weeks of doing it, it becomes a habit. Keeping our ultimate goals in mind is a great help when we become distracted by something. Immediate gratification is tempting, but if we change the way we look at life, we come to understand while it looks, tastes or feels good at the time it is not greater than the alternative prize.
1 Corinthians 10:13
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation, he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.