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My Life Was A Mess. Then I took Control.

 

I thought I had bad luck, that I was suffering because of some outside influence. I was wrong, I made the choices that disrupted my life and it was up to me alone to put a stop to it.  I learned that I could change my life by changing my attitude. It is never an easy road, it took me decades to get where I was at this point and it would take years to get out.  I began, one step at a time, day after day, I kept moving forward.  Controlling my body through fitness and nutrition become a blessing because I could see results quickly.

Thanksgiving Day

We are all given gifts, they differ from person to person, it is what we do with them that counts.  If we waste them or don’t use them for a good purpose, things never seem to fall into place. We all know what is good for us, we don’t need someone to take charge, nobody can do it better than we can for ourselves.  Step up and take responsibility for our own lives.

Take Charge, Investigate, And Move Forward In Life.

How often do we let a lack of self-control set us back in life? Do we follow the latest trend blindly without doing our own due diligence?  Its time to step up, take charge, do our own research, trust in ourselves and live the life we dream of living.  Making our own informed decision is the only way to live life.

The Blame Game

 

Our lives are built on our actions, attitude, and the choices we make every day, even those people we let in our inner circle.  If we are unhappy with where we are in any aspect of life, we are responsible for change, too often we look for outside influence. The soundtrack of our lives is the thoughts we vocalize or play in our mind on a daily basis.

Enjoy Life, Slow Down.

When we are constantly racing towards a destination, what happens to the moments we are living right now? Fast does not always mean better, many times we are in such a hurry we fail to do the necessary work it takes to build a strong base. In life details matter.

Questions We Might Ask Ourselves

 

We all want change, yet few of us define our goals.  They will remain some distant dream until we decide exactly what we want.  We have a choice daily to either follow the positive or let the negative take over. Change is never easy, it will bring uncertainty, failure, life lessons, even strength in mind and body.

Five questions.

Stop Talking About What You Want To Do

We are all guilty of telling our friends and family about the things we hope to do one day, and then doing nothing towards achieving those goals.  

Inaction costs us our desires.  Think about the inventions, art, music, literature and financial gains that are lost because we never take the necessary steps.

Could it be that we are all lazy?  Or do we just derive enough pleasure from picturing our perfect scenario without having to do any of the work it will take to get there?

The problem with this is that one day we will begin to have feelings of regret and disappointment.

I see it all the time in the gym.  People come in to get into shape. They know they need to do something and yet they just cannot persevere or push through mental/physical obstacles.  Sometimes they blame it on “not having time,” which simply means it is not a priority. We all have time for the things that matter to us.

Then, a year passes, and inevitably they are worse off.  

I have seen it in Jiu Jitsu so many times. People come in and want to learn, but they just are not willing to put the time into learning.   I can tell you this observation I have made. Those that have become black belts in Jiu Jitsu that I have trained with are not the loud, weight-lifting braggart types.  They are those that showed up day after day and put in the work and the time to learn.

I also observed it in my writing career.  People often talked about their projects, took classes, seminars and did everything they could, except actually putting pen to paper day after day.

The problem comes from the inside.  Each of us must ask ourselves if we are content maintaining our current life without making any changes.  If the answer is no, then we must make changes.

Dreams, goals and destinations will never happen without first taking solid steps that will build the momentum to reach them.  Each of us holds the power to change, no matter what our situation is at this moment. We cannot blame anyone else for our failure to accomplish our goals.  The decision is up to us, we alone must take action.